Those Boundaries You Worked on All Year? Protecting Your Peace: Holiday Edition
Estimated read time: 5 minutes
You didn’t work all year on setting boundaries just to let them slide the last two months of the year. So let’s talk about it—keeping your peace intact when family, friends, or that one opinionated aunty tests every ounce of it.
1. Remind Them (and Yourself) Why You Set Boundaries in the First Place
When Aunt Brenda starts in with the unsolicited advice or the “When are you…?” questions, pause. Take a breath. Remind yourself: You’re not required to entertain every single comment that crosses your path. You’re allowed to change the subject, step away, or simply smile and stay silent. Boundaries are not just for you—they also signal to others where their “opinions” start and stop.
2. Know Your “No”
Guess what? You can say “no” without adding a single excuse. There’s power in just “no.” When your friends want to go for round three of late-night gatherings, and you’re just not feeling it, be unapologetic. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for prioritizing your rest, sanity, or peace.
3. Anticipate the Pushback
Some people see boundaries and think it’s an invitation to test them. That’s on them, not you. Don’t let their disappointment or resistance become your issue. You’re not responsible for managing other people’s emotions—only your own. So when someone starts guilt-tripping, remember that this is the same script they used last year. Don’t play the role they’re expecting.
4. Carve Out Moments for You
In the whirlwind of the holidays, pause for some personal time. Yes, it’s busy, but that’s exactly why it’s non-negotiable. Block out a little time daily, even if it’s just to sit in your favorite chair with a cup of tea. Recharging is not selfish; it’s essential.
5. Keep It Real and Keep It Moving
If someone’s energy doesn’t align with your peace, move on gracefully. Not every gathering, every person, or every situation deserves the same level of energy from you. Politely excuse yourself when needed. Protecting your peace is not an act of rebellion—it’s an act of self-respect.
Affirmations to Keep You Grounded
“My peace is worth protecting, and I honor my boundaries.”
“Saying ‘no’ allows me to say ‘yes’ to myself.”
“I am firm in my boundaries, regardless of how others respond.”
“My well-being comes first, and I prioritize it with care.”
“I am at peace with protecting my energy.”
Positive Habits for Boundaries & Balance
Prioritize Self-Care: Dedicate at least 15 minutes each day to something you enjoy, whether that’s reading, meditating, or simply relaxing.
Set Clear Expectations: If possible, communicate your boundaries with close family or friends before gatherings to set a respectful tone.
Create a Go-To Escape Plan: Identify calming activities—like taking a walk or finding a quiet room—that help you reset if a situation starts to feel overwhelming.
Limit Time with Draining People: It’s okay to spend less time in conversations or spaces that don’t feel supportive. Your energy is precious!
Give Yourself Permission to Rest: Don’t feel pressured to attend every event. Sometimes, the best way to celebrate the holidays is by staying cozy at home.
Final Word
The holidays come and go, but the peace you’ve cultivated is here to stay. So here’s to you—holding firm to what you’ve built, knowing it’s worth every moment of calm. Anybody is subject to your boundaries.